Thursday 29 January 2015

Anxiety and Parenting

Pre-Audrey, I knew how to deal with my anxiety. I would stay wrapped up in the security of familiar things, take it easy on myself, give myself a lot of space and quiet and comfort. Whether that was the familiarity of work and the usual routine, or taking a day to hide at home.


As a parent everything is more difficult when it comes to managing mental health problems. We home educate, so spending a day tucked up at home IS possible - but I don't like to do it very often. Audrey goes a bit stir crazy being stuck indoors all day, as you can imagine. And there is always a lot going on - home ed groups, ballet, music class, swimming... or, like today, SNOW!


Missing out on these things makes me feel guilty - which makes the whole thing pointless, as that only exacerbates the anxiety.


It's a complicated thing to deal with, especially with small children who simply don't have the ability to understand or to agree to play by themselves, and need our constant input.


I don't have any answers to neatly wrap this up with, but I wanted to make this post to say to other parents with anxiety - I get you! It's rough. We can do it, though - we do it every day. You're doing a great job. You're doing fine.